View Poll Results: Do you prefer us lobbing Potatoes or Grenades to take care of spammers?
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Mustangs Coast to Coast
3/15/10, 08:42 AM
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I hate MUD!!! There has been 5+ inches of rain falling on us and I need to get the car into my little garage. So, do I drive through 3+ inches of mud to get there or do I just lift up the hood and remove stuff in the rain. Decisions, decisions...
Hmmm... drying me off sounds better than scraping mud out of the wheel wells and tires.
Hmmm... drying me off sounds better than scraping mud out of the wheel wells and tires.
3/15/10, 09:56 AM
The Legacy TMS Lady
I hate MUD!!! There has been 5+ inches of rain falling on us and I need to get the car into my little garage. So, do I drive through 3+ inches of mud to get there or do I just lift up the hood and remove stuff in the rain. Decisions, decisions...
Hmmm... drying me off sounds better than scraping mud out of the wheel wells and tires.
Hmmm... drying me off sounds better than scraping mud out of the wheel wells and tires.
3/15/10, 10:28 AM
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Hey man, for some of us, we put down deep roots for complex reasons. And familiarity serves to offset being alone.
Our home is not a house, not a get rich (or not) vehicle - its a lifestyle, a safe haven, a family (even after kids grow up), a living memory of all we hold dear, our only private world in a too busy and over populated civilization, a living breathing thing that is a part of us and we are a part of, our own personal museum, and a life experience that is alive and well. Sadly, no one will cherish it like we do.
To move her puts her square in the reality that she's entering her last phase, and that probably the next strange place she's moved to that isn't her beloved home, will be a nursing home and facing her final days. uckafa that!
Any house can be fixed or rebuilt correctly and up to standard so it lasts (and provide a reasonable return over the long haul) and saves you from repeated duct tape & bailin' wire repairs eow.
Thanx for helping her. Good job! But for the full picture & understanding, walk awhile in her shoes, look thru her eyes. You'll know what to do. And how to develop even more patience & perserverence than you have now.
(Lord knows your days [like all of ours] are zoomin' by and you'll be there sooner than you think!)
Our home is not a house, not a get rich (or not) vehicle - its a lifestyle, a safe haven, a family (even after kids grow up), a living memory of all we hold dear, our only private world in a too busy and over populated civilization, a living breathing thing that is a part of us and we are a part of, our own personal museum, and a life experience that is alive and well. Sadly, no one will cherish it like we do.
To move her puts her square in the reality that she's entering her last phase, and that probably the next strange place she's moved to that isn't her beloved home, will be a nursing home and facing her final days. uckafa that!
Any house can be fixed or rebuilt correctly and up to standard so it lasts (and provide a reasonable return over the long haul) and saves you from repeated duct tape & bailin' wire repairs eow.
Thanx for helping her. Good job! But for the full picture & understanding, walk awhile in her shoes, look thru her eyes. You'll know what to do. And how to develop even more patience & perserverence than you have now.
(Lord knows your days [like all of ours] are zoomin' by and you'll be there sooner than you think!)
All agreed Charlie, This house if far more to her than just a place to sleep at night. She raised two children there, watched her husband rebuild the whole home over the years he was alive. She also watched him die in that home. She cared for all 4 of her grandchildren in that home & 4 of her great grandchildren as well. I will never be able to understand everything that it means to her and what she has gone through in that house. There are a lot of happy and sad times that house has seen in the past 50+ years. I can't and would never ask her to give any of that up.
The issue comes to this. The house in is serious disrepair and she does not have the money to fix the things it desperately needs. The walls leak, yes right through the siding through the horse hair plaster to the wall paper, the front porch is pulling away from the house and cannot be walked on. The septic system is full and has been there as long as she has owned the house. The state will not let her fix it & it will cost 20k+ to have it hooked up to city sewer and have the old system removed. She can't flush the toilet more than twice a day and can never take a shower. The windows are all rotting and the sills are crumbling. The basement has flooded 5 times that I can think of with 6+ inches or water. Not to mention that every time it rains she gets some amount of waster, just not enough to get the kitchen floor wet.
If the funds do not exist to get everything taken care of then what do you do? It's not about getting her out of the house for my convince because I no longer want to care for it. It's because she nor I have the funds or means to take care of it. You can't continue to live in a home that is falling apart around you and has reached a point where it has become unsafe.
For those reasons and those alone I ask her to move to a safe place where at 86 she does not have to worry about maintaining that house, mowing the lawns, having the walkways & driveway shoveled, not having to clean up after a flood. She has worked very hard through her life and I believe that she can take all of the memories that home has provided for her over the years with her to a safer home. I'm not asking her to move into assisted living, she by no means needs that. She still to this day works 4 days a week at the senior center making lunches.
So yes, I understand everything you are saying and could not agree more. But there is a lot more to the story than me just trying to get her out of the house or something that can be fixed with a lil paint and plaster.
3/15/10, 11:33 AM
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3/15/10, 12:03 PM
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I'll see if I can work out some sort of deal with my dad for the extra data fee since all our phones go through his store. Having the internet at my hands means a lot to me though, as well as my mom. 
I hate MUD!!! There has been 5+ inches of rain falling on us and I need to get the car into my little garage. So, do I drive through 3+ inches of mud to get there or do I just lift up the hood and remove stuff in the rain. Decisions, decisions...
Hmmm... drying me off sounds better than scraping mud out of the wheel wells and tires.
Hmmm... drying me off sounds better than scraping mud out of the wheel wells and tires.
3/15/10, 12:13 PM
The Legacy TMS Lady
I can't wait to see the sun =)
3/15/10, 12:18 PM
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Man that looks nice!! Supposed to be similar here for the rest of the week except saturday there's a chance of snow.
3/15/10, 12:21 PM
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I really do need a new phone though. I just tried texting my sister and it turned off on me. It's not the battery. It has something to do with the flip part of the phone. 
3/15/10, 12:25 PM
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I'm really, really ready for the nice weather.
3/15/10, 12:26 PM
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Me too. Hopefully I get home early enough from work to give my sawdusted-notch a bath.
3/15/10, 12:54 PM
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3/15/10, 01:00 PM
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And even the bad memories that she's worked through and healed from are part of the character of our 'living' homes. I'm sure I'll be more difficult than my dad was in making that decision when it comes time to move me to town in about 50 years.
The difference being he had us kids so I'm not sure how its going to play out for me but that's a long way away.
3/15/10, 01:19 PM
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I see... and I'm not preachin'... just a reminder how important our homes are to some of us. Too bad its crumbling around her.
And even the bad memories that she's worked through and healed from are part of the character of our 'living' homes. I'm sure I'll be more difficult than my dad was in making that decision when it comes time to move me to town in about 50 years. The difference being he had us kids so I'm not sure how its going to play out for me but that's a long way away.
And even the bad memories that she's worked through and healed from are part of the character of our 'living' homes. I'm sure I'll be more difficult than my dad was in making that decision when it comes time to move me to town in about 50 years.
The difference being he had us kids so I'm not sure how its going to play out for me but that's a long way away.
look who's talking. 
3/15/10, 04:36 PM
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If I were you I'd be out there driving every second you get. Maybe my dad will go with me. Not sure what I'm doing yet.
Work sucked. Curse the idiot who decided shoe boxes should have a slippery coating. They're impossible to move and stack without falling over again and again and making a huge mess.
Got the notch running outside. Time for a bath finally. I can't believe how dusty she is!
3/15/10, 04:42 PM
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That's gonna be sad to see it go. If I were you I'd be out there driving every second you get.
Maybe my dad will go with me. Not sure what I'm doing yet.
Work sucked. Curse the idiot who decided shoe boxes should have a slippery coating. They're impossible to move and stack without falling over again and again and making a huge mess. Got the notch running outside. Time for a bath finally. I can't believe how dusty she is!
If I were you I'd be out there driving every second you get. Maybe my dad will go with me. Not sure what I'm doing yet.
Work sucked. Curse the idiot who decided shoe boxes should have a slippery coating. They're impossible to move and stack without falling over again and again and making a huge mess.
Got the notch running outside. Time for a bath finally. I can't believe how dusty she is!