your right.

im glad he got caught. its a blessing in a lot of ways

 

he'll have to sober now...this is a good thing...hopefully once he gets a little better you can go visit him and try again.

 

well he got bail and got out... he is home now and feeling pretty stupid

he has to go to court down in missouri later this month.
hell probably lose his license i think

 

Well, here's my thoughts. Remind him that if he keeps drinking he's going to keep getting in more trouble. Maybe the thought of being incarcerated when your next child is born will give him something to think about before he picks up the bottle.

 

My heart goes out to you and your wife. This has to be very difficult for the both of you.

Now, I have 20 years of sobriety this month. Obviously, I have a lot of experience with this issue. For myself and trying to help others. You've been given good advice. Here is want I would do and I think it was mentioned earlier.
Line up the Rehab facility, pack his bag. Take him and drop him off.
Now, you've helped him and also put the responsibility where it belongs, on your father in law. Ultimatley, its up to him. No matter what you do this is the truth, he either wants to get better or he doesn't. Good luck.

 

The best thing that could happen at this point is rehab is part of his sentencing. IMO, however, long term inpatient would be most helpful. I say that because it removes all the triggers, opportunities, people, places, etc that make it easy to slip back to his former habits. It also allows him to just shut down from "life" (STOP THE BUS!) for a hot minute, take a breath, and regroup so he can focus on coping with his losses, stopping drinking, and re-establishing himself in a more positive way for re-entry. The downfall is most of those programs are VERY expensive.

It's going to get better Nate, I just know it is.

 

Congradulations to you Jeff!! It's not an easy thing to do.

 

thanks a ton for all your support guys!!!

you all really have been a good source of support here for the last year or so

 

this forum is about more than just mustangs.

 

werd bro....!

 

Definitely, and like Lynda said, things will work out.

 

What's up Nate?

 

same old stuff.

thats life though. always something going on. always some problem to solve

 

theres no helping them unless they want the help themselves, been through it with family members, its a heart ache

 

thats why elcamino guy left!
but i love it here too

 

Nate, for your sake, I hope he chooses to stop this time. I agree that he has to want to do it or he's not going to stop. I feel for you and your wife and I know it's not easy, but hang in there! Dealing with his problem can't be easy with everything else you and your wife have going on right now.

Congrats to you Jeff, 20 years of sobriety....that's great!