Glenn

doing something is better than doing nothing. I would. Poor girl is possibly being raped on a regular basis.... Stand up you have the ammo ...now shoot. I am sure you can call in and remain anonymous. I can tell you for sure I would be doing something about it.

GottaHaveIt

Call it in it's the right thing too do You don't wanna know what my anger made me think of what I'd like to do.

edumspeed

+1. My bro had a similar situation with a co-worker he had. Her husband beat her for any stupid thing when he was drunk. A couple friends went one night and broke the hell loose on his pickup truck, cause the lucky SOB wasn't home. Eventually, she left him, but not after a couple more episodes of violence. It's something that she must decide to do because her own mother doesn't give a $ht about it. I get really pi$$ed of when this sort of thing happens still on this day. My mind is full with very creative ways of revenge, but it's something that one shouldn't do because you'll only get down to their level.

429 Boss Mustang

agree when i get mad i prob thought the same as thing gotta have it
I used to be abused but its why i almost killed sumone for messing wiht me :/ so i had to get anger managment
but now and days i just avoid ppl that **** me off but abuse is a bad thing if she bein abuse best do sumthing

edumspeed

Those Neanderthals should be locked up and the key fused with a torch so they won't do any more harm to other people. It's a repetitive cycle that keeps going on and on. I've grown tired of seeing on the news or paper that some POS that to feel like a man goes and hits someone defenseless. If they feel the urge to fight, go do it with someone of their own size.

Sendero

Police do not name 3rd parties who report abuse, either physical or sexual.

What's going to weigh on your conscience more; the fact that you reported it and it was false OR the fact that you DID NOT report it and she suffers life altering injuries as a result?

429 Boss Mustang

Ed can agree their no body needs to go through that kind of stuff in a early age or young adult whatever still causes mental abuse to the mind.

429 Boss Mustang

well if you see marks on somebody that wasent their the day before u notice and second day you see more would you get kindof wonder what happened

edumspeed

Oh, and by the way, are the teachers on that school blind or something? The social worker is there for those kind of situations. They know what to do. At least here it's done like that.

429 Boss Mustang

same in oklahoma but alot of ppl were long sleeve shirts

cntchds

She isn't with her dad this weekend, and I'm going over to talk to her today. I'll be calling once I get home. I just feel like, I know it is the right thing to do, and in my head and my heart I feel like it is my place to do something, but then I feel like if I'm not even that close to her, and she told me, then her friends must know, and I can't help but think why haven't they done anything? maybe I don't have the full story or something. I can't stand the thought of someone abusing her, but the idea of falsely accusing someone of something so severe is unimaginable to me as well.

As for the "why haven't the social workers seen it?" I have never seen any visible marks of abuse, but then again I was never really looking for them.

Glenn

any updates? If this was happening to me I don't know that I would tell my friends.

1999 Black 35th GT

I work with abused people in my job. It is depressing sometimes and you really want to do something yourself, but the fact is, SHE must want to help herself first. The sobering reality is that most people who really are abused don't report it, generally the whole judicial system regarding protection from abuse is in itself rendered useless by people filing false allegations and that in turn tends to discourage the true victims from speaking out.

You are definetely doing a great thing by being there for her, that's for sure. I would suggest maybe contacting the school psychologist like you had mentioned or possibly contacting a womens shelter. The one's around here have actual attorneys who represent people like your friend pro bono (free). Another idea would be to contact the local department of public welfare since she is still a minor.

In the end though, as painful as it may be for her, she needs to follow through with whatever help is given to her and get herself out of that situation. She does not want to be another statistic.

Good luck.

Glenn

anything going on with this?

cntchds

She hasn't been around her brother or father since I first posted this thread. Her mom is fighting for full custody, and a restraining order. I will tell you what happens as soon as I know.