My former boss and good friend shot himself in the head Friday night. He apparently wasn't dealing very well with the recent separation from his wife. Everyone had been trying in vain for weeks to get him to open up and talk about his plight, but he was too stubborn. He left behind his wife, mother and his grown daughter. He had a decent bankroll to live off of and had just started a business that was thriving. If you're ever in the dumps, listen to your friends and get help!

 

That sucks... sorry to hear.

 

Taking your own life is nothing more that a permanent solution to a temporary problem. It is not the answer. Sorry to hear about the demise of your frined.

 

Very sorry to hear about the loss of your friend. I hope you are OK.

 

I'm fine. Just struggling with why in the world he would do this. He was the kind of guy that, if he was in the building you knew it. He was referred to as the mayor of his town because literally everyone knew him. Of course he was also very stubborn and opionated. I had a tendancy to polarize folks with his approach to things. Folks either loved him or hated him. There was no middle ground. I'm beginning to think that his over the top friendliness (when you didn't cross him) might have been a bit of a front. He was always over the top with everything he did. He was also very vindictive. He did it in his wife's car knowing she was coming by to pick her up. Unfortunately his business partner and also long time friend found him instead. I can't think of anything a person can do to their surviving family members and friends.

 

My wife moved out 2 weeks ago.
I've been dealing with it just fine.
I don't measure my worth by my status,my job,my car or my marriage.
I am worth what I have done to help others and what I can do.
I would be worthless killing myself.
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Glad to hear you're coping well at this point. Refer back to this thread in a few weeks just in case the going gets tougher. Apparently he was going through some serious sleep deprivation that likely contributed to his irrational thinking. Good luck man!

 

I sleep very well.
The wife doesn't complain about the snoring anymore.

 

 

my godfather killed himself last year, while on the phone with his wife and his son and grandson in the next room no less. it is never easy when someone close to you decides to take that road.

 

so sad...
it's kinda too much to hear stories of suicide.

and they seem to want to hurt the ones closest to them...
so sad...

 

Sorry to hear this, too. How many of us know people who have gone off the deep end when a relationship goes south? It's very hard to be in a marriage or committed relationship without relinquishing a certain amount of autonomy over one's emotional stability.

Sadly, not everyone has the coping skills to deal with their feelings if and when that relationship goes south...or with the myriad other curve-***** life so often throws one's way >> death of a loved one; loss of a career; diagnosis of a serious disease; onset of chronic pain or depression; hopelessness, etc, etc.

Not to sound trite, but as the old saying goes, It's not what happens to you in life, it's how you choose to deal with it. But realistically, that's often easier said than done, and certainly, having someone to talk to or confide in can be a big help.

Each person copes according to their gifts, I suppose.

 

Tragic. It's unfortunate that some people won't or can't open up about their feelings. I guess in a way I'm sorta like that. I let problems float around inside my head where they can fester into small mental illnesses...but that's another topic.

Gun violence, though? Eh, I'm not gonna argue over it. I once knew a guy (not personally) who in the dead of winter climbed into the football park, stripped naked and laid down on a bleecher. Death by hypothermia. Probably one of the easier ways to go I guess. People will find ways to snuff themselves no matter what. Unfortunately, the people doing the snuffing are rarely the ones who should.

I've never had the blessing of a wife, so I'm not going to say that a divorce is an easy thing to get over.

I actually had suicide on my list twice while I was in college. I was one of those kids who thought the learning system was bunk and so although I learned a lot I flunked a lot of tests. Go figure. I can remember once thinking about how I was gonna do it. Kill myself, I mean. At the time it was like something I didn't want to do, like go to the dentist, but it might. Looking back, it scares the sh** out of me thinking about it.

In the end I guess I never got to the point of suicide with my problems mostly because of the love of my family, and my own aversion to ending it all. There's just too much in life to do. Why cut it short? They say "time heals all wounds" and they're right. The bitter memories that make us break into cold sweats at night are part of our character and should not be forgotten, but we have to move beyond them.

That's part of life. It's gotta suck once in a while, otherwise how would we know the good times?

 

That pretty much sums it up!