I am crushed, worst day of my life
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When I was a kid my dad and I had many bonds. One that really sticks out in my mind was the love of the American muscle car. The way he told stories of his modded drag Mach 1 Mustang and his Roadrunner filled my mind with almost magical images of pavement shaking exhaust and power, screaching tires and freedom to step on the gas and take off like a rocket. I tried talking him into a muscle car as my first car, he took me out and after looking the reality of insurance rates quickly closed that door. Much of my life went by and I saw many muscle cars come and go. Jealously I woul dlook at these cars thinking I would never have one. That I would make do with what I could.
When I saw the concept for the new body style of Mustang some years ago I was sucked right back to that time. The car floored me, it was my dream car and I thought how much I would even like just to drive it. I had never driven a muscle car, and the last time my dad and stepped on the gas of one was when he totalled his beautiful Mustang in the seventies. Still, insurance rates held me back. 500 dollars a month for a car plus insurance? Couldnt cut it.
In 2005 I turned 25. I ventured onto a couple sites after seeing some beautiful Mustangs on the road. Wanted to hear about how they performed and how much people liked them. After lurking around I started thinking that the age I am now is the age my dad was when he had his car. I thought I am not getting any older and you only live once so lets check it out. The price was something I could afford. I called my insurance agent and found the rates I would get with my good driving record where great and affordable. This was it I said, I think I may be able to get my dream car.
The only catch was I had to convince my wife to trade in her new car. It wasnt easy. I wanted this car SOOOOO bad at the time I told her that she could trade her car in and SHE could have and drive the Mustang as long as I got to take it for a spin once a week. We went back and forth and finally after weeks of moping and bickering she said she would let me get the car as an anniversery present. What a great wife she is. I ordered through a small dealer and after five months of waiting clean and unscheduled I cancelled my order. We bought a big house a few miles up north after running into a "once in a lifetime oppurtunity" in fact, we closed last month and are scheduled to move up there this weekend.
After thinking about it for a few weeks and frequenting this forum and its very helpful members every single day looking for pictures of what car I wanted I finally decided I could still do it. I talked to ISELLFORD and he graciously helped me out and I finally finalized my order just days ago. He told me that I would probably get it first week in April and I was psched. I called and got preapproved for financing with a good rate and everything was set in motion to FINALLY after years of dreaming and wanting get my car. I even took my wife on a test drive and she finally admitted she really liked the car and looked forward to getting it.
My dad was pumped up. I could tell he was really excited to see his son get the car he was so in love with in his youth. The Mustang is something we have talked about our entire lives, something that means more than a car to us. He really wanted me to get the red leather and I had planned on taking him to Moline to pick up my car and letting him drive it home. That meant a lot to me that he would drive it home. I dont think I have ever been so excited about something in my life.
Today I was laid off from my job of nearly seven years. I never saw it coming and it hit me like a brick. Nearly 70% of the people in my department where let go. To add insult to injury one of the people being laid off is also a coworker who was planning on buying the house I am moving out of, they where closing next week. Now it seems they may pull out. If they do there is absolutely no way I can pay or survive with two mortages. It seems its a complete one hundred and eighty degree turn from fantastic to horrible and is about the worst timing imaginable. I have no idea what I am going to do. I will probably have to get rid of nearly everything I own and cut away internet and other unnessecary things. Obviously the first thing I have to do is find a way to take car of my little girl and my wife. But in the back of my head is that darn car. I wanted that thing more than I can even tell you guys. It meant so much to me than just a nice car. I wanted to say this is a great place and everyone on here is very cool. A good group of friendly gentlemen on this site and its a great resources. I am very thankful for all the help, pictures, advice I have been given. Its much appreciated.
Keoni
When I saw the concept for the new body style of Mustang some years ago I was sucked right back to that time. The car floored me, it was my dream car and I thought how much I would even like just to drive it. I had never driven a muscle car, and the last time my dad and stepped on the gas of one was when he totalled his beautiful Mustang in the seventies. Still, insurance rates held me back. 500 dollars a month for a car plus insurance? Couldnt cut it.
In 2005 I turned 25. I ventured onto a couple sites after seeing some beautiful Mustangs on the road. Wanted to hear about how they performed and how much people liked them. After lurking around I started thinking that the age I am now is the age my dad was when he had his car. I thought I am not getting any older and you only live once so lets check it out. The price was something I could afford. I called my insurance agent and found the rates I would get with my good driving record where great and affordable. This was it I said, I think I may be able to get my dream car.
The only catch was I had to convince my wife to trade in her new car. It wasnt easy. I wanted this car SOOOOO bad at the time I told her that she could trade her car in and SHE could have and drive the Mustang as long as I got to take it for a spin once a week. We went back and forth and finally after weeks of moping and bickering she said she would let me get the car as an anniversery present. What a great wife she is. I ordered through a small dealer and after five months of waiting clean and unscheduled I cancelled my order. We bought a big house a few miles up north after running into a "once in a lifetime oppurtunity" in fact, we closed last month and are scheduled to move up there this weekend.
After thinking about it for a few weeks and frequenting this forum and its very helpful members every single day looking for pictures of what car I wanted I finally decided I could still do it. I talked to ISELLFORD and he graciously helped me out and I finally finalized my order just days ago. He told me that I would probably get it first week in April and I was psched. I called and got preapproved for financing with a good rate and everything was set in motion to FINALLY after years of dreaming and wanting get my car. I even took my wife on a test drive and she finally admitted she really liked the car and looked forward to getting it.
My dad was pumped up. I could tell he was really excited to see his son get the car he was so in love with in his youth. The Mustang is something we have talked about our entire lives, something that means more than a car to us. He really wanted me to get the red leather and I had planned on taking him to Moline to pick up my car and letting him drive it home. That meant a lot to me that he would drive it home. I dont think I have ever been so excited about something in my life.
Today I was laid off from my job of nearly seven years. I never saw it coming and it hit me like a brick. Nearly 70% of the people in my department where let go. To add insult to injury one of the people being laid off is also a coworker who was planning on buying the house I am moving out of, they where closing next week. Now it seems they may pull out. If they do there is absolutely no way I can pay or survive with two mortages. It seems its a complete one hundred and eighty degree turn from fantastic to horrible and is about the worst timing imaginable. I have no idea what I am going to do. I will probably have to get rid of nearly everything I own and cut away internet and other unnessecary things. Obviously the first thing I have to do is find a way to take car of my little girl and my wife. But in the back of my head is that darn car. I wanted that thing more than I can even tell you guys. It meant so much to me than just a nice car. I wanted to say this is a great place and everyone on here is very cool. A good group of friendly gentlemen on this site and its a great resources. I am very thankful for all the help, pictures, advice I have been given. Its much appreciated.
Keoni
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Keep your chin up. Sooner or later things will turn around. 5 years ago I lost my job and didn't know what to do. I went back to school for 8 months and now make more money than I would have if I had never lost that job. Losing my job at the time, was the best thing that could have ever happened to me.
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I am really sorry to hear that. I hope things work out for the best in the end. Just like you said try and take care of your wife and daughter and keep on truckin and things will get better I promise. Just take care of yourself and your dream will come true.
Shelby GT500 Member
Joined: July 21, 2004
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From: New Jersey
Keep your chin up man. I've been where you are more times than I care to think about and it's not at all a good feeling. Work with your real estate guy to get your first house re-listed and keep the faith. It will sell. Your plate may seem completely blown right now, but remember for every door that closes, another opens.
You'll find something and eventually you'll even get your car.
KEEP THE FAITH!
You'll find something and eventually you'll even get your car.
KEEP THE FAITH!
Very sorry to hear that.
I have been there, spent several years unemployed after back surgeries and more back surgeries. What a nightmare.
But I did not lose my house, or my kids, and eventually I got a great job, my back was fixed correctly and everything worked out.
Now I am in great financial shape and can afford to pay cash for my new vert.
So hang in there, it will work out in the end.
I have been there, spent several years unemployed after back surgeries and more back surgeries. What a nightmare.
But I did not lose my house, or my kids, and eventually I got a great job, my back was fixed correctly and everything worked out.
Now I am in great financial shape and can afford to pay cash for my new vert.
So hang in there, it will work out in the end.
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<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(97svtgoin05gt @ February 16, 2006, 1:44 PM) Quoted post</div><div class='quotemain'>
but remember for every door that closes, another opens.
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This is too true. I have a similar story to Adrenalin's. It was hard to accept at first but I'm sooooo much better off now. It was one of the best things that ever happend to me. These cars will be around for a while... you know you'll get one sooner or later (probably a Shelby too [img]style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/thumb.gif[/img] ). Hang in there!
but remember for every door that closes, another opens.
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This is too true. I have a similar story to Adrenalin's. It was hard to accept at first but I'm sooooo much better off now. It was one of the best things that ever happend to me. These cars will be around for a while... you know you'll get one sooner or later (probably a Shelby too [img]style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/thumb.gif[/img] ). Hang in there!
Shelby GT350 Member
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From: Tornado Alley
Sorry to hear about your difficult time, but I am a firm believer that EVERYTHING happens for a reason. What seems like a terrible problem or event now, turns into the perfect thing later on.
I have seen it and experienced it too many times to feel or believe otherwise.
Keep your eye on the important things, you wife and kid, as they will be your driving force through the tough times.
Things will get better [img]style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/04.gif[/img]
I have seen it and experienced it too many times to feel or believe otherwise.
Keep your eye on the important things, you wife and kid, as they will be your driving force through the tough times.
Things will get better [img]style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/04.gif[/img]
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<div class='quotetop'>QUOTE(65205 @ February 16, 2006, 4:36 PM) Quoted post</div><div class='quotemain'>
Everything I was going to say is posted above. You WILL be OK and your Mustang family is here for you. Please keep the faith! Good luck to you and your family.
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Ditto. Don't let yourself wallow in self-pity, even for a minute. Just start thinking about your options and go do something else. It's hard to believe right now, but you could very well find a better job than your current one, with more opportunities.
One word of advise: do whatever you have to do to protect your credit rating. You may have to give up on some short-term dreams for now but if your credit gets messed up you'll find it a whole lot harder to bounce back, trust me.
Good luck to you, and please don't stop coming to this board. You'll have your Mustang. Maybe you'll get the next-gen stang and make us all jealous.
Everything I was going to say is posted above. You WILL be OK and your Mustang family is here for you. Please keep the faith! Good luck to you and your family.
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Ditto. Don't let yourself wallow in self-pity, even for a minute. Just start thinking about your options and go do something else. It's hard to believe right now, but you could very well find a better job than your current one, with more opportunities.
One word of advise: do whatever you have to do to protect your credit rating. You may have to give up on some short-term dreams for now but if your credit gets messed up you'll find it a whole lot harder to bounce back, trust me.
Good luck to you, and please don't stop coming to this board. You'll have your Mustang. Maybe you'll get the next-gen stang and make us all jealous.
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In the end it will work out, don't give up! You must tell yourself everything happens for a reason and try to find a positive in all this.
I was laid-off from a telecom job I had for 18 yr.s. The company went bankrupt. At first I thought my world was gone. Finally picked myself up, went back to school and re-trained. Making more money with alot less stress in my new field. You will get your car in the end, but first you must turn this around. You can do it!
I was laid-off from a telecom job I had for 18 yr.s. The company went bankrupt. At first I thought my world was gone. Finally picked myself up, went back to school and re-trained. Making more money with alot less stress in my new field. You will get your car in the end, but first you must turn this around. You can do it!
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Wow, that is a particularly nasty turn of events. Don't worry about the car, Ford WILL be making Mustangs for many years to come. By the time you are back on your feet they will no doubt have some cool new model out, like a Boss or Bullitt edition. There's plenty of time for that, concern yourself with getting back on solid financial footing first. At least it's a good time to lose your job because it is a fantastic market right now. Treat looking for a new job as a job in and of itself, spend 8 hours a day doing research, getting out resumes, making calls, etc. You will no doubt be back at it soon. Good luck!
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From: Tallmadge OH
Things sometimes happen for a reason. I was laid off back in May 97. I ended up getting hired by the company I'm with now 2 months after that in July 97. Was the best thing that ever happened to me. I darn near doubled my salary in the 9 years since being with that old company. Keep motivated and go get um! There's a job out there with your name on it and you just might find the silver lining like I and others on here have.
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Hang in there. It's happened to me a few times and it was always traumatic but I survived and things always got better. They will for you too. You've got a community here thinking positive thoughts for you and that means a lot.
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From: Burlington, ON, CA
Lets just say this......it's best that this happened now and not when you already had the Mustang. Your time will come, mine did, and so did many others on this board.
Things will turn around for you.....that is a promise.
Things will turn around for you.....that is a promise.
Mach 1 Member
Joined: October 17, 2004
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From: Phoenix, AZ.
Think of every knock as a boost. Many years ago, I was fired from a good job that I liked for playing a silly joke on someone. I was shocked and depressed. But I managed to survive and in a few months I had a better job with a better future and at twice the pay. Focus on what you need to do and hang in there. Best of everything to you and your family.
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I think we have all been there. Always remember..... The LORD never gives you more than you can handle.
You and your family will be fine. Be aggressive and go out and get the job that you and your family need.
You will be fine.
You and your family will be fine. Be aggressive and go out and get the job that you and your family need.
You will be fine.
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Footprints
One night a man had a dream.
He dreamed he was walking along
the beach with the Lord. Across the
sky flashed scenes from his life. For
each scene, he noticed two sets of
footprints in the sand: one belonging
to him, and the other to the Lord.
When the last scene of his life
flashed before him, he looked back
at the footprints in the sand. He
noticed that many times along the
path of his life there was only one
set of footprints. He also noticed
that it happend at the very lowest
and saddest times in his life.
This really bothered him and he
questioned the lord about it. "Lord,
you said that once I decided to follow
you, you'd walk with me all
the way. But I have noticed that
during the most troublesome times
in my life, there is only one set of
footprints. I don't understand why
when I needed you the most you would
leave me."
The lord replied, "My son, My
precious child, I love you and I
would never leave you. During your
times of trial and suffering, when
you see only one set of footprints, it
was then that I carried you."
---Author unknown
Sorry to hear of your situation, in this day and age you just never know when something like this is knockin at your back door, myself included, just hang in there.
Not sure of your beliefs, but reading this has helped me a time or two.
Take Care,
A member of your TMS family-
One night a man had a dream.
He dreamed he was walking along
the beach with the Lord. Across the
sky flashed scenes from his life. For
each scene, he noticed two sets of
footprints in the sand: one belonging
to him, and the other to the Lord.
When the last scene of his life
flashed before him, he looked back
at the footprints in the sand. He
noticed that many times along the
path of his life there was only one
set of footprints. He also noticed
that it happend at the very lowest
and saddest times in his life.
This really bothered him and he
questioned the lord about it. "Lord,
you said that once I decided to follow
you, you'd walk with me all
the way. But I have noticed that
during the most troublesome times
in my life, there is only one set of
footprints. I don't understand why
when I needed you the most you would
leave me."
The lord replied, "My son, My
precious child, I love you and I
would never leave you. During your
times of trial and suffering, when
you see only one set of footprints, it
was then that I carried you."
---Author unknown
Sorry to hear of your situation, in this day and age you just never know when something like this is knockin at your back door, myself included, just hang in there.
Not sure of your beliefs, but reading this has helped me a time or two.
Take Care,
A member of your TMS family-
