Not all kids are the same some actually have a few smarts, I think anyway(couldn't tell it by mine), but I believe that is the choice and judgment call of the people that know them the best the parent. I think having it outside on her last day of school would be great or the night of graduation. Congrats

 

Wow....I am ashamed at alot of you.

You know NOTHING of this family's situation, nor the circumstances. I am not sure what hick town you all are living in...but accusing this girl's parents of being "rich" and her being "spoiled" is WAY off base. We are talking about a Mustang here...not a BMW, which is very common arround here for Grad or 16th Birthday presents.

Regardless of the area or location of where they live...this mom (and dad?) has worked for the money, to pay for this car. Whether they worked 5 years...or 5 days for it...is pointless. Money is money, and this girl sounds like she WILL appreciate it and WILL take care of it.

You know how I am so sure? Because her mom, came on here...and took the time to post and discuss ways to surprise her daughter. If giving her daughter a new mustang, was like a "trip to DQ"....don't you think she would just give the "spoiled brat" the car and not make it special?

No, she wants to make it special...and wants to surprise her daughter. This is a wonderful gift, given by wonderful parents. Don't be jealous and envious because YOU cannot do the same for your children, or your parents didn't do the same for you. And yes, that IS meant to be insulting...because alot of you have been insulting to this women and her request to surprise her daughter.

Instead, be happy for this girl...that she gets to appreciate the pride of owning a mustang so early in life. Why be so negative, when instead you could encourage a situation and help it be the best it could be?

I'm sorry to come off preachy....but I have ALWAYS looked young for my age. And am constantly being accused of driving "mommy's car". When the fact is, I have owned three mustangs now (just turned 22). First when I turned 16. And I have paid for every one; insurance, gas, and payments. ALL while going through college (since I was 15) and grad school (up to this year).

Age has NOTHING to do with appreciating something. Its maturity, and none of you speak to whether this girl will appreciate it or not. I can only guess that with a loving and mom, she is an appreciative young girl.

 

"Hick town". Wow....thats harsh...

The DQ comment was to show relativity and I never called anyone a "spoiled brat" If you are going to quote me, quote me correctly. If you do not like my opinions or my comments, I'll PM you a couple of suggestions where you can stick yours. I commented on the last few posts, thats all. If this lady wants to do this for her child, then great. More power to her.

Still not insulted though. The ussumptions you make about us makes you just as bad.

 

the comments here are way to funny , i am sure if mommy and daddy got you a new car you people that are complaining would have no problem taking it.. congrat`s to you daughter

 

Nope, no problems there. I'd take it in a heart beat.

 

my point exactly..

 

Just because I would take it, doesn't mean I'd do the same for my children. Little difference there..

 

Now that we have hi-jacked this thread enough....

How about the day of graduation hiding her original car and tell her it was stolen. Have the stang on the street and toss her the keys and telling her to take it.

 

Rich, I couldn't have said it better myself.

I'm sorry, but she sounds like a great kid with a great mom. So what if most of us couldn't afford to have a car like this at 18 or 19. Who are we to criticise the decisions of another parent.

As far as deserving.... I look at deserving as including being a responsible and mature daughter who respects her parents and loves them a lot. Some might classify deserving as a hard-worker who knows what it takes to ear $30k. That view is great, but it doesn't mean that a kid who is concentrating on school etc. can't still deserve a car.

If I'm lucky enough to have enough money to give my kids cars (not necessarily mustangs though) so that they can concentrate on school etc., I'll do it. IMO, the best thing you can do for a kid is take away unnecessary pressures such as money. A good kid will realize how lucky they are and appreciate it.

Now, safety and young people driving 300hp cars is another concern, but that's up to the parents discretion.

$0.02.

Also, lets move on, this thread is not supposed to be a criticism of a mother's decision to buy her daughter the car but rather a forum to provide suggestions for a great suprise.

 

never said what you would do. all i said that you would have no problem taking it.

 

First, when I called them rich, I was not being derogatory......and they are rich. Ninety percent of people cannot afford to lay down a $30,000+ car in front of their child. They simply cannot do it. That means that someone that can would probably be in the top 10% of wage earners, classifying them as rich, wealthy, or however you want to characterize it. As I said, it wasn't a dig. I hope to be "rich" someday. Good for them.

As far as the age thing, I didn't mean to bash strict age as much as the fact that most 18 year-olds have never made a dime and never worked for anything big. That is also not a dig, just facts. They haven't had the opportunity. My point is only that people who work for things themselves generally appreciate them more than if they are handed to them. It's a generalization I realize, but I believe it holds true in most circumstances. It seems as if that is not the case with you, and you should be proud that you have done things on your own. It builds character to enjoy benefit from our own labor. I would guarantee you have appreciated the things you have worked for far more than had they been given to you.

Also, to anyone that thinks I am jealous, I could really care less that this lucky girl is given this car. This board is all about opinion, of which I have offered mine. It doesn't mean I am jealous. I am going to take delivery of a substantially similar car in three weeks or so, so why would I be jealous?

 

First, when I called them rich, I was not be derogatory, and they are rich. Ninety percent of people cannot afford to lay down a $30,000+ car in front of their child. They simply cannot do it. That means that someone that can would probably be in the top 10% of wage earners, classifying them as rich, wealthy, or however you want to characterize it. As I said, it wasn't a dig. I hope to be "rich" someday. Good for them.

As far as the age thing, I didn't mean to bash strict age as much as the fact that most 18 year-olds have never made a dime and never worked for anything big. That is also not a dig, just facts. They haven't had the opportunity. My point is only that people who work for things themselves generally appreciate them more than if they are handed to them. It's a generalization I realize, but I believe it holds true in most circumstances. It seems as if that is not the case with you, and you should be proud that you have done things on your own. It builds character to enjoy benefit from our own labor. I would guarantee you have appreciated the things you have worked for far more than had they been given to you.

Also, to anyone that thinks I am jealous, I could really care less that this lucky girl is given this car. This board is all about opinion, of which I have offered mine. It doesn't mean I am jealous. I am going to take delivery of a substantially similar car in three weeks or so, so why would I be jealous?
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Cause YOU will pay for yours....

 

Cause YOU will pay for yours....
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Eh...in the end I still have the car, which is all I really care about.

Perhaps we should dispense with this quoting heck.

 

First, when I called them rich, I was not be derogatory, and they are rich. Ninety percent of people cannot afford to lay down a $30,000+ car in front of their child. They simply cannot do it. That means that someone that can would probably be in the top 10% of wage earners, classifying them as rich, wealthy, or however you want to characterize it. As I said, it wasn't a dig. I hope to be "rich" someday. Good for them.

As far as the age thing, I didn't mean to bash strict age as much as the fact that most 18 year-olds have never made a dime and never worked for anything big. That is also not a dig, just facts. They haven't had the opportunity. My point is only that people who work for things themselves generally appreciate them more than if they are handed to them. It's a generalization I realize, but I believe it holds true in most circumstances. It seems as if that is not the case with you, and you should be proud that you have done things on your own. It builds character to enjoy benefit from our own labor. I would guarantee you have appreciated the things you have worked for far more than had they been given to you.

Also, to anyone that thinks I am jealous, I could really care less that this lucky girl is given this car. This board is all about opinion, of which I have offered mine. It doesn't mean I am jealous. I am going to take delivery of a substantially similar car in three weeks or so, so why would I be jealous?
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Tim, I agree. You'll never appreciate anything more than when you work for it yourself. And yes, they are probably well off if they can afford such a car + insurance.

I guess the main point is that while a person who works hard for the car is definately "deserving", a person who might not work for it is not necessarily "undeserving". There are good kids out there.

 

Just so we understand which team you play for.


And yes, you didn't say "spoiled brat"...it was put in quotes for emphasis. I never said that was a direct quote, nor did I ever mention you spefically. Feeling guilty?

So before you accuse me of mis-quoting you, trying reading what I posted.

And I said hick town, to also show "relativity" (yes, those quotes are meant to quote you).

Your (as well as others) opinions were RUDE and ASSUMING (that the daughter is un-appreciative, spoiled, bad parenting, etc). Mine were statements of fact, or questions (ie. I am not sure what hick town....etc.)


So before this goes any longer, why don't we get back to "How can this woman surprise her daughter" and away from "do you think my daughter deserves this car" (which alot of you have turned it in to).

 

Tim, I agree with ya. Being appreciative is not based on age. We aren't talking about statistics here....we are discussing one girl. We should assume she is deserving, since her mother is giving the car to her.

 

Dan, I agree in principle. I guess we have to agree to disagree as to what exactly we feel is deserving. In a world where many, many excellent students and fine young men and women (of which I am sure the young lady in question is an example) get nothing handed to them, I just hesitate to say that being a good student is "deserving" of such a car. Of course, in my estimation, people very rarely are deserving of anything they do not do for themselves. A great student deserves good grades, a fine education and educational opportunities, the possibility of making something of themselves, and the hope of becoming a contributing member of society. Yet I cannot infer deservedness of a car from good grades. Guess my brain just can't draw the connection.

 

make a video put it in the vcr . say hey i want to watch a movie put it on and it is you with her car saying all that you want to let her know. like how proud you are ect.... then take her to her car .. i am sure she would melt like butter. and she also gets the tape to remember that day

 

Louis, great idea

 

Wow, that is a great idea. That would be a very personal way to do it.